Becoming Her When You Don’t Have It All Figured Out

Lately, I’ve been talking a lot about faith, entrepreneurship, and what it really looks like to become the woman God is calling me to be.

And let me be honest: some days, that looks like confidence and excitement. Other days, it looks like doing what I know to do, praying, and trying not to get ahead of myself.

When I decided to bet on myself, I said I would share the good, the bad, and the uncomfortable parts of the journey. So here’s where I am right now: I’m learning to trust God in places where I used to depend on familiarity.

One of those places is my finances.

After spending nearly three decades in corporate America, I was used to a certain rhythm. I showed up, did my work, and expected a paycheck on schedule.

Entrepreneurship has required a different kind of patience. You can show up, make the calls, have the meetings, follow up, and still have to wait to see the financial results of your effort.

That part will stretch you.

I believe in the work I’m doing. I care about the people I serve. And I still have moments when I wonder when everything will come together.

I’m learning that I can bring those questions to God, too.

Trusting God While Doing My Part

In this season, I’m also putting more systems into place. I’m paying attention to how I spend my time, how I follow up, and what I need to do consistently to build something sustainable.

Because I can pray for growth and still need to organize my day.

I can believe God opened a door and still need to prepare for what’s on the other side.

For me, trusting Him includes taking responsibility for the steps I can take today, even when I can’t see the full outcome.

Maybe you’re in a similar place. You’re working toward something that matters to you, but the progress feels slower than you hoped.

Before you decide you’re doing everything wrong, give yourself room to look honestly at what’s happening. What needs more time? What needs a different approach? Where do you need support?

Those are questions I’m learning to ask myself with more patience.

Bringing My Faith Into the Room

Recently, I had the opportunity to serve as the keynote speaker at the Root and Bloom retreat. Afterward, a few women shared how much they appreciated hearing me speak openly about my faith. They were happy to hear it, and some were surprised because they said they don’t hear many speakers do that.

That stayed with me.

My love for Jesus is part of who I am. It shapes how I serve, how I make decisions, and how I keep going when things feel uncertain.

I wouldn’t be telling my full story if I left Him out.

That experience made me think about how often we hold back parts of ourselves because we’re unsure how they’ll be received.

Have you ever done that? Felt the urge to share something meaningful, then talked yourself out of it because you didn’t want to make someone uncomfortable?

I want to encourage you to consider where you might be editing yourself out of your own story. You can express your faith with kindness and respect. You can speak from your experience without expecting everyone in the room to have the same one.

Letting Someone Pour Into Me, Too

I went to that retreat prepared to pour into other women. What I didn’t fully expect was how much I would receive from the attendees, the host, and another speaker.

I left grateful for the conversations, the encouragement, and the chance to be in community with women making space for their health and wellness.

It reminded me that even when I’m there to serve, I still need connection.

I think many of us get so accustomed to being the dependable one that receiving feels unfamiliar. We know how to encourage someone else. We know how to show up. But when someone offers us that same care, do we let them?

I’m learning to make room for that.

What Becoming Looks Like Right Now

Right now, becoming looks like trusting God with my finances while building better habits in my business.

It looks like speaking openly about my faith.

It looks like serving others and allowing myself to receive encouragement, too.

I don’t have every part figured out. But I can see where I’m growing, and I’m grateful for that.

If you’re in a season that’s asking more of you than you expected, take a moment to check in with yourself:

Where do I need to trust God more deeply, take a practical step, or allow someone to support me?

You don’t have to solve everything today. Start with an honest answer. Then take the next step you know to take.

With love,
Darneisha